a written challenge to a duel 

In the wise words of Sheryl Sandberg, "I want every little girl who's told she's bossy to be told instead that she has leadership skills."

ACTION LETTER #7: February 9th, 2017

--Female Leadership--

Dear Activist Cartel,

As more and more emphasis is placed on our lawmakers, we need more people who "persist" for justice. This week, I want to place our focus on female leadership and planting seeds for the future.

My whole life I was afraid of being called "bossy." As a little girl, that word often hurt my feelings, causing me to minimize myself and hold back my natural abilities. Interestingly, we never use "bossy" to describe little boys. Why?


Research shows that women make government more inclusive, transparent, and accessible. Women bring forth priorities and perspective that have been largely absent from public policymaking.

--Here is a sampling of the 
international rankings for the % women in national legislatures/parliament... 
1.) Rwanda 
6.) Sweden 
26.) Argentina 
45.) Sudan 
53.) Afghanistan 
61.) Iraq 
100.) United States (!) 
current numbers for 2017 US female officeholders are not even close to being good enough.

1.) Ask a woman to run for office. 
--Sign her up for 
She Should Run where she'll be supported and guided. It's a wonderful nonprofit, and we're honored to have one of their national board members in our cartel. You can also work with them to run for office yourself
--Make your ask intentional: invite her to coffee, write a meaningful email, whatever you need to do to make her feel empowered. It's good to start this process early, so try also asking a young woman who is just starting college. Perhaps you're only planting a seed, but the inspiration has to start somewhere.

Teach a Girl to Lead. 
--This website connects you to so many leadership programs to volunteer for or to connect your daughter/niece/friend to on a state by state level. 
--A girl's desire to be a leader peaks at age 8-10 and drops from there. 
Research finds that the single greatest barrier to leadership is a girl's self-perception, specifically her lack of self-confidence in her own skills and leadership competencies.

3.) Compliment a "bossy" young girl by telling her that she has leadership skills. Help her shape a positive self-perception. (takes 1 minute and can make all the difference)

4.) Continue to contact your Representatives on the many immediate issues confronting us. Super easy, details below.

--Phone Calls: 
This is the most efficient website that I've found for frequently updated CALLING SCRIPTS and specific phone numbers. 
--Town Hall Meetings: 
Here is a frequently updated 
list of representatives' scheduled town hall meetings. Talk to them in person!

All of you have really inspired me with your actions. I cannot thank you enough.

Trying to use my "bossy" leadership skills for good,